6 Ways To Show Your Spouse Appreciation

Happy Monday and happy May! This past Friday, John and I celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary! We ordered takeout from Gibson’s Steakhouse and enjoyed a nice bottle of wine while John’s mom hung out in the other room with Sofie so we can have some alone time. #QuarantineAnniversary2020!

So now that we have 6 years of marital bliss under our belt, I thought it’d be fun to share 6 Ways To Show Your Spouse Appreciation. While I’m certainly no marriage expert, I do believe that showing your spouse gratitude can go a long way in making them feel valued and appreciated, which in turn makes for a happy and successful marriage.

1. Say “thank you” and “I love you” and say them often. “Thank you for taking the trash out.” “Thank you for picking up my dry cleaning.” “Thank you for dinner.” I believe we all have a part to do and showing gratitude for these mundane everyday tasks is important. If I cook dinner, John will clean up and I make sure to thank him for doing so, or if I do the laundry and there are clothes in the basket, he’ll fold them and put them away if I can’t get to it. Also, text your spouse in the middle of the day to let them know you’re thinking of them. I know how busy John is at work, but he still texts me throughout the day and sometimes just a quick “Hi, amore!” makes me feel loved and reminds me he’s thinking of me. I know how much he misses Sofie when he’s at work so I make sure to FaceTime him at least once every day so he can see her or I send him photos. If you don’t already say “I love you” every morning before work and every night before bed, start now! It’s a good habit to get into.

2. Have their back. Life has its challenges and having a partner you can count on to stand by your side through thick and thin is a sure way to make your spouse feel loved and appreciated. There have been a couple of instances where I wasn’t there to defend myself when someone was speaking negatively about me, and John stood up for me and defended me when I couldn’t defend myself. There’s no better way to show you’re a united front than when a spouse stands up for you to others. If you don’t show that you value and respect your spouse or your relationship, others won’t either.

3. Compliment their appearance. Tell your wife she looks beautiful in that new dress she bought. Tell your hubby you love his new hair cut. If you know your spouse or significant other has been working out and trying to lose weight, stroke their ego a bit and give them a confidence boost by letting them know you can see their muscles! Complimenting your spouse is one way to let them know you notice them and is a sweet gesture to make them feel appreciated.

4. Acknowledge their efforts and praise them in private and public. I’ve often seen and heard spouses calling their friends to complain or vent about their spouse when something isn’t going well in their relationship. Instead of focusing on the negative, be proud of your spouse and let your friends and family know just how amazing they are. Go ahead and share it on social media every once in a while. Whether they’re a SAH (stay-at- home) parent taking care of the kids or running a business, remind them they’re doing an amazing job. John has told me in person or sent me text messages on several occasions telling me I’m doing a great job as a mom, and that really means a lot to me. I also know how hard John works so I do my best to tell him how awesome he is at what he does, and we both totally feel appreciated when we do that.

5. Support their passions and hobbies. If your spouse loves going to concerts or sporting events, surprise them with tickets and go with them. Even if it’s not your cup of a tea, spending some time doing what they love and what’s important to them is a sure way to make your spouse happy. For instance, John is a big golfer so I’ve gone to the driving range with him or walked the course with him as he played a round of 9 holes just to keep him company. One of my hobbies is my blog and I know how appreciative I am when John takes my photos for me or reads my blog posts.

6. Listen. We all know that communication is key for a lasting relationship. When your spouse is talking and telling you about their day, put your phone away, turn off the TV and engage in conversation. It’s easy to get distracted and there’s nothing more insulting than when someone’s trying to talk to you and you’re not paying attention.

Leave a comment below and tell me some ways you feel appreciated or show your spouse you love and appreciate them! Also, make sure to check out last year’s post on 5 Ways to Celebrate Your Wedding Anniversary.

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Sofia’s 3 Month Update

Hi, all! I hope you’re doing well, staying sane and keeping healthy while practicing your social distance. Some days are definitely harder than others especially when you can’t even visit with your own family. Yesterday we drove around and stopped by both of our families’ homes for “window” and “drive-by” visits. It’s not the way we imagined our visits would be, but it’ll have to do for now. John and I are both extroverts (I’m more so of an ambivert) so we do miss socializing, but we’re so thankful to have Sofia who keeps us entertained and on our toes! Also, thank goodness for FaceTime, text messaging and social media which helps us keep in touch with our nearest and dearest. I have a couple of group texts going with my girlfriends which make for lighthearted and funny conversations during a not so fun time.

Anywho, Sofia turned 3 months old yesterday! She’s getting so big already and I guess that saying, “The nights are long, but the years are short,” definitely rings true. The last update I shared with all of you was at 3 weeks. Quite a bit has changed since then so I wanted to fill you all in!

I was supposed to go back to work at the end of March, but I had reached out to my employer and decided to extend my maternity leave through end of April because I just wasn’t ready to leave Sofia behind (not sure if I ever will be to be honest). However, with everything that’s going on with COVID-19, my office has been temporarily closed since March 16 and everyone is working remotely until May 1, so we’ll see what happens over the next few weeks.

I’m exclusively breastfeeding and plan to do so all through her first year which plays a big part in not being able to leave her yet. I do pump and let her drink out of a bottle a couple of times a week which allows for John to feed her in the evenings and weekends (or grandma when she was able to come over and hang out with us). John and I have gone on one date night since Sofie was born and it was the week after my birthday in February. It’ll be nice to get out, just the two of us, once this quarantine is over and I’m sure grandma Ro is counting down the days to be able to watch her again. Speaking of which, I had my first glass of wine on my birthday after being 10 months sober and I now look forward to enjoying my one glass (or two) Every. Friday. Night. 🙂

I’m pleased to say that Sofia is very happy, healthy and thriving. She lights up our world and has brought so much joy into our lives that I don’t even know how we ever lived without her. She’s super sweet and affectionate and loves giving kisses, just as much as she loves receiving them. She’s always smiling and cheerful (although she definitely has her moments), loves looking at her own reflection in the mirror and enjoys FaceTime with her family. She puts together vowels and consonants, is a pro at tummy time and can roll over onto her back. She still sleeps in our room and will probably stay in our room until she’s six months or so. She can go 3-4 hour stretches these days and has somewhat of a schedule which consists of going to bed between 9–10pm, getting up once (sometimes twice) in the middle of the night to nurse, and then typically starts her day around 7am. We’ve tried putting her in her crib during nap time to slowly transition her to the other room, but she’s not ready to be alone yet and prefers napping on mom and dad’s bed. And as much as she loves her daddy (from whom she gets her stunning good looks), it’s safe to say that for the moment, she’s a mommy’s girl.

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Sofia’s Newborn Photos and a Three Week Update

She’s here!!! Can you guys believe it?! Our sweet Sofia Rose arrived on January 5, 2020 at 5:03am and she’s as perfect as can be. John and I are so in love with her and we have been soaking up every moment with our sweet girl. The love we have for this little human is indescribable and we’ve never been happier. Tonight I’m sharing Sofia’s newborn photos that we shot when she was just eight days old, as well as a quick update on our life at home with a newborn and how we’re adjusting as first time parents and as a family of three!

It’s been three weeks since we brought Sofie home and she’s changed so much already in such a short amount of time (she’s 24 days old today). I’ve been embracing this newborn stage and trying not to take any of my time with her for granted, including those long and sometimes sleepless nights because I know this stage won’t last forever.

John stayed home with us for the first two weeks and his mom has been coming over almost every day for a few hours at a time to help out and spend time with her granddaughter. She brings us lunch or dinner, tidies up, holds Sofie while she sleeps so I can take a shower and get some rest or to just get things done (there’s a lot more laundry and cleaning up to do these days). Yesterday I made my first trip to Target and even managed to put some lipstick on (a win-win) which made me feel like a brand new woman after spending every day over the past few weeks in my pajamas or sweats with a newborn attached to my breast 90% of the time. Newborns feed on demand and around the clock the first few weeks so it’s been a huge adjustment for me since I used to get 8 hours of sleep each night and get dressed up for work and now I’m waking up every 2-3 hours to nurse and am lucky if I brush my hair and teeth in the morning!

I had always planned on breastfeeding so I was really fortunate that Sofie was able to latch on from day one and is nursing like a champ. She’s growing and filling out each day and is completely healthy which is all we could ask for. As far as Sofie’s personality and temperament, she’s such a good baby. She’s super sweet, loves to cuddle, smiles and only gets fussy when she needs a diaper change or to nurse. I try to be good about feeding her as soon as she starts suckling on her hands which is one of the early cues a newborn is hungry and not waiting too long for her to start crying. We do go through a period when she gets fussier than usual and needs to cluster feed every 20-30 minutes or so over a period of a couple of hours at night. It does seems to be fading out (thankfully), but basically she flails one arm and “punches” my breast, kicks her legs and grows really impatient while she nurses. They say the level of Prolactin which is the hormone that signals the breasts to make more milk is higher in the evening which contributes to a drop in your milk supply. Never come in between a newborn and their milk! It’s pretty funny actually and we’ve been meaning to record it one of these days and show it to her when she’s older.

Even though I currently have the sole responsibility of feeding Sofie, John has been such a big help in other ways and does whatever he can, whenever he can such as changing her diapers, spending time with her and holding her as soon as he gets home from work, driving us to the pediatrician’s office and running out for groceries or whenever we need something. Having that kind of support from your partner and your family is so important and makes a world of difference for new moms because those first few weeks with a newborn can be tough and exhausting. We both have so much respect for those single parents out there who are doing this all on their own and a big shout out to all the amazing dads out there who support their partners and are their for their kids because they want to be, not just when they have to be.

As far as milestones, Sofie has been staying awake longer during the day, is really alert and curious, makes great eye contact and has really strong reflexes (she’s been able to hold her neck up a bit since a few days after she was born). We’re looking forward to seeing her grow more and more each day and seeing her personality come through. Becoming a family of three has been a welcome change and quite a bit of an adjustment as first time parents, but we’re getting the hang of it and are doing the best we can.

[Photography Credit]: McCarrell Photography

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2019 Christmas Photos

Happy Monday, all! Can you believe there are only nine more days until Christmas? And seventeen days until little Miss C’s due date?!! Eek. I just can’t believe it. So many different emotions now that we’re in the home stretch. Mostly, we’re just so excited to meet our little lady, but I’d be lying if I didn’t say I was a little nervous as we anticipate her official debut. All we can do is just take it day by day and embrace these last couple of weeks together as a party of two. It’s just been the two of us for the past 14 years so it’ll be a welcome change as we transition to a family of three. My last day at the office is this coming Friday and I’ll be on maternity leave until spring so I’ll have a couple of weeks to myself to get situated and get some rest (hopefully). We’ve been uber busy these past few months, as you can imagine, and the holidays are always full of social events. Pregnancy (or my swollen feet) have not slowed me down. Also, I’m so thankful to John for getting the majority of our Christmas shopping done for us this past weekend and really going above and beyond this entire pregnancy to help me out any way he can. Kuddos to the best husband and soon-to-be dad. Seriously. He’s been so amazing and I can’t wait to see him with our sweet girl.

A few weeks ago we shot our winter maternity photos that we used for our Christmas cards this year and I’m so happy with how they turned out. A special thanks to Sheena Ann Photography for capturing our last Christmas photos as a party of two. I’ve also linked both of my dresses below (the white sweater dress is non-maternity).

Have a great week! xo

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My Fall Maternity Shoot

Happy Sunday! I hope you all had a great weekend. We spent the entire weekend “nesting” and getting everything in order for little Miss C’s arrival in about 6 weeks. It makes it so much more real now that her room is ready, her clothes are washed, everything is organized and in place and our car seats are installed. It feels good to get all the important things out of the way so we’re not scrambling last minute. Tomorrow is my 34 week appointment and I just have to order some wall decor, her crib sheets and some misc. items, but otherwise, we’re pretty much ready!

On a side note, I did a mini fall maternity shoot a few weeks back thanks to my girlfriend Lauren so I wanted to share some of my favorite photos from that shoot. My maternity dress is from PinkBlush Maternity who were kind of enough to gift this dress to me. My dress comes in several colors and they have a ton of cute dresses for photo shoots, baby showers and casual everyday items. You can shop my dress below.

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